Waiting

We're still waiting and it feels like waiting and waiting for Ray to get a job.  

I wasn't going to write about this because I am one who usually likes to write about the trial after it is done and I have learned from it and now know it is a blessing. But we have had so many blessings from this trial and although some days it seems hard, I just have to think a few minutes and know that I have been blessed & I shouldn't complain.  I see others' problems and I'm grateful for my own.  We have a happy family life.  We have our health.  We have the gospel in ou life.  We have very good friends.  We have food on the table and a roof over our heads.  And so many other things that we may not realize we have.

I know you're probably wondering what this picture has to do with our unemployment woes.  This was taken at one of our fun church youth activities.  A few leaders dressed up so you wouldn't recognize them as easily and hid in the store (Fred Meyer).  The youth had to go around and find them & have them sign a piece of paper saying that they found them.  A Where's Waldo? game.  It was a lot of fun, we had some great disguises.  This was in March of 2012.

The next day, I was at Walmart shopping & I got a terrible phone call from Ray saying that he was being laid off. This was extremely difficult for us.  Ray had been working there for 16 years, most of our marriage & we didn't really know what we were going to do & what other jobs even looked like.  

Luckily he had been going to college online & was close to finishing his degree (mid -August).  The Capitol (where he worked) was good to him and gave him time to look.  They didn't really give him a end date.

He found a new job at Orange Commercial and started June 1st.  It was hard for him to get used to.  He left behind a lot of close co-workers.  We also had taken a $500 pay cut. We still felt blessed.  The hours were great, he worked M-F, 7-4:30.  After a while, the job wasn't really what we thought it would be.  After working their for 9 months, he was let go. We found out the day before my birthday.

This was really hard.  We had no idea what to expect and what to do.

Ray is really good about being on the ball and calling and finding out the best options for any given situation.  We are blessed by having his unemployment count on his previous state job salary so it is not much less than his Orange Commercial job. 

 We have had so many blessing, & I won't share them all, but I know that we are loved! Heavenly Father loves us and we have wonderful people surrounding us!  I know when you pay your tithing things work out.  I can't tell you how many times I have added things on paper and been so stressed about how it was going to work out, but it does.  I try not to write it on paper much anymore because it really stresses me out.  I have also felt so many prayers on our behalf.  It is interesting when people say things like, "I will pray for you or you've been in my prayers", I feel it.  I don't know how to describe it.. except saying that I feel love and I can physically feel the prayers of loved ones for us.  It is a wonderful feeling!

We have had a few good leads lately and we feel like Ray will be getting a job soon! We are hopeful and trying to remain positive. I know sometimes our ideas don't match what the Lord wants for us.  I'm learning that his are usually better or we couldn't even imagine anyways.

So keep the prayers coming our way & I'm sure soon I will have a mass message to send out about our happy news!

The talk "I hope you know we had a hard time" by Elder Quinten L. Cook has really touched me.  Here is the video of  it, they made it into a short mormon message.

A few new things on the frugal side.

Ray decided to build a picnic table!  We have had lots of spare wood in storage, so he decided to put it to good use.  I'm so proud of him! He's becoming quite handy! 

I remember when we first got married he didn't know how to do much.  In his house growing up, you called someone to come do something.  In my house growing up, it was the opposite.  I didn't even know that you could call people to come do things for you.

He got the directions from the Internet.  (What did we do before the Internet...?!?!) It was fun watching him measure more than twice, cut the wood, and place it all together.  He even carried over some wood to our neighbors house in the wagon to use his miter saw.

 I love our back yard! Especially in the summer time.  We set up our canopy and have the swing (that we got for free on craigslist a couple of years ago)  We got a new couch, so we brought out our "old" couch to make more room to sit and lounge. Now I think we need a party with all of our seating capacity! The couch will go downstairs when/before it starts to rain.

 Here is our new couch.  $5 at a garage sale!!! I've been wanting a different couch.  I was tired of chaise lounge part of the old couch.  When we first got it, it seemed cool, but then it wasn't really being sat on much and it was big and bulky in the living room.  Also the couch cushions come off easily and get misshapen easily.
So we were out in between activities looking at a few garage sales.  (BTW, Ray & I love garage sales!) There was 3 on one street, which is a bonus.  I saw this couch and it had a sticker for $10 on it.  We sat on it & I kept saying to Ray, I think we should get, really, I think we should!!  He wasn't to sold on it.  The owner of the garage sale said, $5 and 25 cents for every 15 minutes you sit on it!  We got up and walked to the other 2 garage sales.  The whole time I am saying to Ray, I think we should buy it, I think we should buy it! I was thinking for $5, even if it doesn't work out, we could re-sell it on craigslist.  So obviously, I talked him into it. :)  And we love it... At least for now.

Our first 2 apartments in PA

We have now lived in our home for 8 years.  It's kind of sad that we have been married almost 21 years and this is the longest we have lived in one place.  Before this house, we moved around a lot.  Although we lived mostly in the same area, we lived in a lot of different areas. I was going to blog all the different places we lived, but I think I will just start with our 2 apartments in PA.

Our first little apartment was so cute!  It was tiny! Our bedroom didn't have a closet, it was in the living room.  We could only fit one of those little 2 people round tables in the dining room.  BUT we did have a very cute porch with a swing out in front.  You can't see the swing, it was on the far right. It was an old house that was converted into 4 apartments.  We didn't live there very long because it wasn't very convenient to our jobs.  Can you believe that we only paid $290 a month!!  Ours was the bottom floor on the right.  This was in Mechanicsburg, PA.  I babysat my nephew Jesse in this apartment, we only lived a couple of streets over from Ray's sister. Jesse & I did a lot of swinging in that swing and singing preschool songs.

We then moved to New Cumberland, PA and lived in our large 1 bedroom apt for almost a year.  I think this apartment was only $345 or something like that, but that was A LOT more than our first place! It was nice, considering the time in our lives.  It had a huge closet in the bedroom, huge living room, it fit 2 full size couches, and a chair.  We had a big picture window that looked out over the to river.  

One of the bad things about the apartment was it very steep (bright green) stairs!! We lived on the top floor.  The other bad thing was that there was no laundry there, we had to go to the laundry mat! Yuk!! (There was a really great pizzeria right next to the laundry mat that had wonderful east coast Stromboli that I loved!) 

There was an old "white" house that was next to our apartment building. They tore it down & now it is a Rite Aid.  Sometimes we parked at that house and brought our laundry or groceries up the stairs.  That eliminated one set of stairs.  When we lived at this apartment, there was a major heat wave in the summer, major snow storm, and then when it melted, there was a flood!  The bridge that we crossed over every day was closed. If we wanted to go anywhere we had to travel a long ways to around it.

Our apartment was in the white section, the top window on the farthest right. It was off of a main road and the parking lot was by the tree in the first picture. Where the cement fence is, is where we would climb up and go to our apartment.  They didn't have the other fence on top of it.  It seems like there was an easier place to get into our apartment from there.  I got these pictures from Google.  Back then we didn't take very many pictures!

One funny little story about this apartment that wasn't very funny then...

It had snowed recently and was melting.  It was slushy outside.  Sometimes we would go start our car, leave it running to warm up and lock it, and use the other set of keys to unlock it.  Well, that is what we did, BUT my keys were locked in the glove box!  I had to walk to work while Ray waited for the locksmith to come unlock our running car.  

We didn't live very far from my work.  That is one of the reasons why we got this apartment.  But as I said it was slushy outside.  I got sprayed with slushy snow mess on the way to work.  I was NOT in a very good mood when I got there!  

I worked in a daycare.  When I got there, there wasn't enough teachers and I was over in my allowed # of children.  My boss then came in and I yelled at him. Whoops!!  At lunch time, he called me into the office.  Before he could say anything, I told him I was sorry for yelling at him and explained that I had a "rough" morning.  Luckily he didn't say much and said  something to the likes of OK, you can go back to your lunch.